Workplace Discrimination Against Pregnant Mothers in Singapore Is More Real Than You Think

When I first found out about my pregnancy, my two biggest fears were that of (i) losing my child due to a miscarriage and (ii) being discriminated against at work.

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For all the talk on gender equality in Singapore, I’ll be honest and tell you that women, especially pregnant mothers, really do get it worse. Of course, there are some great workplaces, but there are also plenty of companies that aren’t that supportive of pregnant workers.

I personally did not announce my pregnancy until I was safely in the second trimester because I wanted to make sure my foetus was stable, and also because I feared that my employer would then find an excuse to terminate me due to having a worker disappear for 4 upcoming months (maternity leave).

From MOM website

According to the Ministry of Manpower, dismissing a pregnant employee is against the law. The exception is if termination occurs due to disciplinary misconduct, but the onus is on the employer to undertake a thorough inquiry before deciding whether to dismiss an employee or take other forms of disciplinary action.

A pregnant employee who has been at her job for at least 3 months has maternity protection under the law, which means that if she is dismissed or retrenched without sufficient cause, the employer is still required to pay her maternity benefits. Of course, 50% of this is shared with the government, who pays for 8 weeks of maternity leave.

But what most of you may not know is that there are plenty of covert ways to discriminate as well.

So while a company cannot dismiss a pregnant employee…but employers can make the employee’s life so hard and stressful that they’re basically forcing the employee to quit.

Here are 3 real-life stories from people I know who had this happen to them.
*Names have been changed to protect their privacy.

Currently aged 32, mother to 1 child.

Q: How did you experience pregnancy discrimination in your workplace, and what did your employer do?

I was 30 years old back then and had been working for the company for close to 2 years when I finally broke the news that I was pregnant with my first child (after I had safely passed my first trimester). While I enjoyed working there, it was a really unpleasant pregnancy journey in that workplace with zero support and those of us pregnant were basically staying just so we can get our rightful maternity benefits.

It was my first pregnancy, and my boss appeared to be supportive at first, but then she started throwing hints at me to “reconsider my career options”. This went on all the way until I hit my third trimester, when she started sending me out to cover events almost every week. I was then already heavily pregnant like a balloon, and everyone knew she was doing it on purpose as we have 5 of us in the team, but I was the only one she sent out most of the time.

It was one of those moments where you either bite through the hardship or give up. I had to coax and convince myself that it was a good way to exercise back then just to stay sane.

Then, in my third trimester, my boss called me in for an appraisal, and started saying that my performance was “below average” for the first time. She said that if I didn’t buck up over the next few months (which was less than 1.5 months), they would have no choice but to ask me to go.

Knowing that I was about to go on maternity leave, I knew without a doubt that my boss raised this up to cover herself (so that she can dismiss me when I’m back from my maternity leave). After all, there was no mention about my “below average” performance before that at all.

As a result, I was super stressed out back then and it got so bad that my gynae said I needed some rest towards the last two weeks of my estimated delivery date.

Q: What happened to you and your child in the end?

I tried delaying my appraisal by taking hospitalisation leave, but the stress was real and while I was rehabilitating at home, I lost my first baby at week 39. 

The management was informed, and most of the heads of departments came to visit me (except for her, my direct boss and supervisor). Not sure if she was feeling guilty, but I didn’t have much bandwidth back then to really care about her feelings as I was still grappling from the lost of my otherwise perfectly healthy baby, who was fine all the way up until all of this happened.

Thereafter, during my maternity leave, I thought everything should resume back to normal (since I don’t have a kid anymore, right?) but to my surprise, my boss was still pursuing this and asked me back to the office for the appraisal. I wasn’t sure what’s legal and what’s not back then, but surely employees on maternity leave are exempted from this? When I went back for the appraisal, she hinted about how my current situation may implicate the entire team since I may not be mentally stable for a person who has gone through such chronic loss.

Q: Did you stay or leave after your maternity leave ended?

I was totally defeated by her perseverance and heartlessness, so I decided to go with what she wanted, and left right after my maternity leave finished.

It has been proven on numerous occasions that my boss (who’s my direct supervisor) isn’t a big fan of employees with kids. To her, having kids means you spend lesser time at work. You are deemed as someone less productive in the team. Staying on would have only made my life tougher since she was so determined to get rid of me. For someone who had no qualms sending me out so often even in my third trimester, what else could she not do? Previously, I already witnessed a female colleague of mine getting transferred out after she was pregnant, for no particular reason.

Q: As a working mother, what were your biggest fears while you were pregnant?

My biggest fear is meeting unsupportive bosses again.

I would rather be penalised for not doing my work properly, than be penalised for being pregnant.

Q: If you could turn back time, what do you wish you had done differently?

I shouldn’t have let her take advantage of my kindness and willingness to prove myself to her. Since I needed rest, I should have just told her off firmly. I shouldn’t have been afraid of her; nothing matters more than losing something more precious (my stillborn baby).

If I could turn back time, I wish I had diligently recorded down those conversations with my boss and report to the management. There was already one miscarriage in the team before me (my colleague was literally bleeding at her desk while rushing some work for her)!

Q: What do you wish your employer had done instead?

Expectant mothers don’t really need extra attention or sympathy, it is all about forward planning and letting us fit into roles that we can excel in at different points of our life.

EH to apologise for her irresponsible remarks and deeds, and that such practices should not happen again to the next pregnant colleague in our workplace.

Currently aged 40, mother to 3 kids.

Q: How did you experience pregnancy discrimination in your workplace, and what did your employer do?

Somehow I keep meeting bad bosses. For my firstborn, I had just started work at my new workplace when I found out I was pregnant. It took me a few weeks before I told my boss about it, and I informed her before the third month because I wanted to be fair to the company. But clearly, I was just being naive.

She was really nice to me up until I told her, and once said to me and another new colleague that she was sooooo glad that we were on board. But after announcing my pregnancy, she turned cold and subsequently refused to pass my probation even though I had done nothing wrong (except for getting pregnant).

I worked very hard when I was there, and knocked off work late almost every single day (9 to 10pm). I even had to work on certain weekends, which I did without complaint.

For certain events, other managers were granted a replacement off, but when I asked, she said I shouldn’t be asking for it. So I kept quiet.

Q: What happened to you and your child in the end?

I delivered my firstborn safely, but in another workplace, I encountered pregnancy discrimination again and halfway through, my third baby suddenly stopped growing. I thought it could be stress because it was really not easy working for my boss, and when another miscarriage happened to another one of my colleagues later on, I was like, gosh, our boss really was the common factor.

She even gave me so much crap and told me she wanted me to stop pumping breastmilk during office hours. I lost my baby while working for her, and till today, I still feel she’s the cause of my loss!

Q: Did you stay or leave after your maternity leave ended?

For my first job, I chose to leave. Before the end of my maternity leave, my boss called me and told me she had to demote me because I was not around for 6 months (4 months of maternity + 2 months for hospitalisation leave).

While I was clearing my stuff from my office desk, the assistant HR director came and apologised, saying that this is not their practice. I asked what they were going to do to her, and he said they had already spoken to her and she’s not allowed to approach staff like this.

Yet, this did not affect her in any way. She’s still a high flyer today.

Q: As a working mother, what were your biggest fears while you were pregnant?

That I would be replaced.